Being fucking peter pan…or what we are looking for when dreaming of children.

There is something we forget along the way, playing the game to become great adults;

This childish openness and playfulness. We lost it, miss it, need to rediscover and many hope to find it in making children. Women can make their puppet experiences become real life and dads can finally play with lego again. Outch.

How about we try to discover this childish playfulness ourselves and enjoy being adult children, who live, dream, play and be foolish? And I don’t mean getting hammered or high beyond recognition to allow ourselves to be stupid and childish.

A good start would be to not take ourselves to seriously. The yogic value of leaving your ego behind makes us a bit more child like. Less stuff in the way, less worries, less preconceptions, and yes, less bullshit.

And when thinking about children, imagine how cool it is having big children as parents who are open to the childish fascination of things and inhibit a natural playfulness themselves. With the small but striking difference of being ahead of their childish game knowing how to act responsibly in the adult world.

I was just recently in the mountains with my group of the new teacher trainees and we practiced laughing yoga. Part of the preparation for the big giggle, where we would laugh ourselves into ecstasy, was to mimic animals. Man, it was ridiculous, but so much fun. The guesthouse family would surround our group and film us with their cell phones and no one of us would care or even notice. Just like children playing. When we got to international rooster interpretations it hit me. It was a moment where our frenchman in the group did a glorious, open chested and loudly screaming interpretation…we all screamed after his lead and where as proud and childish as…yes…Robin Williams as Peter fucking Pan in the 90ies childhood classic HOOK.

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The boring and serious man turning child and dreamer, with shining eyes and a beautifully irrational sense of childish discovery suddenly was within all of us. And also back then, the man that returned to his children was such a warm, loving and playfully understanding adult, relating to the children’s world in another dimension. And this became my personal wish for myself and all the others…bring this playful lightness home, and share it with our friends and one day our children to make this world a bit more real and magic…funny those two can go hand in hand.

Being in the present is an interesting construct to think of in this context. We train to reflect, rethink and plan ahead…like adults. Building constructs of anxiety and complexity as we feel difficulty to act in the past or the future…because in the end, the present is the only time where we can act and which we can control. (You might want to check out some of Eckhart Tolle’s stuff on the “Power of now” if the idea of being in the here and now sounds interesting to you).

Why do I say all that? Because as children we are here and now, and in our spiritual practice we try to arrive, and ideally stay in the here and now. Ideally we only deal with the future if there are direct choices in the present to be made about the future. And only deal with the past if there is an actual learning that we want to make for a current situation in the present. For the rest, aim at the presence as your choice of time, because its the only real one. Learn from children, let them be our gurus and salute to Peter Pan.

To be free of time is to be free of the psychological need of the past for identity and the future for your fulfillment.” – Eckhart Tolle

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